Originally posted Jan 2003

Everybody is different in how much sex they would like or expect in a relationship (or in some cases not in a relationship, whatever floats your boat) For some, 3x a week is a lot, for others it's barely any.

here is my IDEAL sex schedule:

kinky sex ------------3x a week
tender sex ----------1x a week
quickies--------------3x a week
Marathon sex-------1 day a week

Yeah, that's a lot of sex (a little over once a day), but it's basically an ideal or a goal. I wouldn't say I'd be totally unsatisfied with anything less, but I would probably feel pretty satisfied with this general amount.So what is your ideal amount/kind of sex? (6x a week, or 6x a year?) How close to it have you been able to achieve. What are the biggest bariers to "meeting your goal" (ie, partners sex drive, work, family, ect) Do you ever have to have sex more often than you'd like-- maybe to please a partner with a higher sex drive? If you'd like to have sex less often, how do you get out of it, or how do you feel having to do it when you don't really feel up to it? Do you ever wish your partner would approach you, or that they would stop approaching you, and give you the chance to approach them?In short, how does your real sex life compare with your ideal?

***update: at the time I wrote this my sex life was sadly lacking. These days however, things are looking up and I'm happy to report that I'm getting just about the right amount to keep me happy. (which is fairly often, lol)