Originally posted Jan 2003
Hatred is blinding. We are all in the same boat.
Hatred is blinding and I see how it has blinded me to seeing all sides, even before I realize that I felt that way.Sometimes it is easier to change the world than to change yourself. I have some self reflection to do.
I'm beginning to feel that perhaps we can work for our rights without fighting *against* anyone in particular (such as men or any particular political party) If in fact we can begin to work together, perhaps we can get things done instead of wasting time trying to hurt each other. If we fight against we will only get opposition, but if we fight together, we will find strength and common goals.
If I had realized this five years ago, I could have saved myself a lot of heartache. I just realized tonight that I have even delt with my personal relationships in an oppositional way, as if everything where a contest to be won. But in relationships, when one loses you both lose, so when you win, what have you really won? We are in the same boat, as they say.
We need to show men and women, blacks whites jews and everybody else that we are in the same boat, so that we can all begin to paddle together.
If I must think in terms of something vs something, rather than women vs men, I will try to think in terms of people vs injustice. But even that may not be right. Finding the common thread, what do we both want and how can we achieve it?
The world in general perhaps is too adversarial, and I too easily fell into the same patern and embraced the notion of "Me against the world." And not entirely without reason. It seemed to me that I needed the protection that it afforded me. I had wall I didn't even know that I had. But rather than protect me, they have pushed people away and created more problems in my life. What if the world were not against me- what if it were on my side? As a part of the world, my success is its success. You might be thinking now that someone must have stollen my password, but I have had one of those days containing what Oprah calls 'a lightbulb moment.' - a sudden paradigm shift.
It is an emotional and spiritual day for me. I am overwealmed. I hope that I have been able to expess these changes that are taking place within me, and I hope that I am able to embrace and continue to grow with them.
After enlightenment comes work.
Hatred is blinding and I see how it has blinded me to seeing all sides, even before I realize that I felt that way.Sometimes it is easier to change the world than to change yourself. I have some self reflection to do.
I'm beginning to feel that perhaps we can work for our rights without fighting *against* anyone in particular (such as men or any particular political party) If in fact we can begin to work together, perhaps we can get things done instead of wasting time trying to hurt each other. If we fight against we will only get opposition, but if we fight together, we will find strength and common goals.
If I had realized this five years ago, I could have saved myself a lot of heartache. I just realized tonight that I have even delt with my personal relationships in an oppositional way, as if everything where a contest to be won. But in relationships, when one loses you both lose, so when you win, what have you really won? We are in the same boat, as they say.
We need to show men and women, blacks whites jews and everybody else that we are in the same boat, so that we can all begin to paddle together.
If I must think in terms of something vs something, rather than women vs men, I will try to think in terms of people vs injustice. But even that may not be right. Finding the common thread, what do we both want and how can we achieve it?
The world in general perhaps is too adversarial, and I too easily fell into the same patern and embraced the notion of "Me against the world." And not entirely without reason. It seemed to me that I needed the protection that it afforded me. I had wall I didn't even know that I had. But rather than protect me, they have pushed people away and created more problems in my life. What if the world were not against me- what if it were on my side? As a part of the world, my success is its success. You might be thinking now that someone must have stollen my password, but I have had one of those days containing what Oprah calls 'a lightbulb moment.' - a sudden paradigm shift.
It is an emotional and spiritual day for me. I am overwealmed. I hope that I have been able to expess these changes that are taking place within me, and I hope that I am able to embrace and continue to grow with them.
After enlightenment comes work.
posted by Sweet Dreams @ 5:26 AM
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